Presentation

  1. 1

    Introduce the peace table to the group at a calm time, not during a conflict.

  2. 2

    Role-play with an assistant: two adults both want the same book.

  3. 3

    The first adult holds the rose and says: 'I feel upset when you take the book. I need a turn.'

  4. 4

    Pass the rose. The second adult says what they feel and need.

  5. 5

    Both suggest solutions and agree on one. They shake hands or say thank you.

  6. 6

    Invite two children to practice with a pretend problem.

  7. 7

    When a real conflict happens, invite the children to the peace table and guide them with the steps. Gradually say less.

Extensions, easiest to hardest

  1. Match feelings cards to faces
  2. Children help classmates use the peace table
  3. Solve conflicts independently without adult help
  4. Discuss peacemakers from around the world

Control of error

Both children agree on a solution and return to work; if not, the guide steps back in.

Ready to move on when the child…

  • Uses the 'I feel ... I need ...' phrase
  • Listens without interrupting while the other child holds the rose
  • Solves a small conflict without adult help

Try “pink tower”, “tummy”, “diaper”, “grace and courtesy”, or “October”.